I stole this title from the NY Times Magazine section. It caught my fancy, since this is a question we struggle with every day . Well most of us. Maybe not the pope or Mother Teresa or dedicate activists.
If you are not working (aka retired, home with children, unemployed…) , you may say “I have to do this (whatever) today”. But you really don’t want to. Despite your “freedom from a job”, the Have-To Cultural Police take over your psyche.
WHY do I go through a whole day doing “I HAVE TO” things? When I get to the end of one of these days, nothing really good has been accomplished. For example:
I haven’t saved the world from hunger
or stopped a war.
OK, that’s an unreasonable goal. Let’s come closer to home:
I haven’t rescued a friend from an unhappy situation.
I haven’t even made my yard look more beautiful (although I question the value in doing that, in the scheme of things.)
I haven’t made a new friend.
I haven’t created a work of art, or a touching poem, or an interesting story.
I haven’t even done anything on my Bucket List. Or anything to get me closer to my Bucket List.
Have to go to church to return dishcloths I took home last week to wash.
Have to take (horse) fecal samples to vet clinic for testing.
Have to pick up halters I had repaired at local tack shop.
Have to go to Non-fiction Writing Class (OK– One thing on today’s list that helps get me closer to a Bucket List item)
Have to write Marketing plan for National Horse Trail group.
Have to iron some shirts (Oops, had a typo for a second there, it said “iron some shits“. Maybe it was a Freudian slip, since ironing shirts is kind of in the category of ironing shit … unless I can find a good classic movie on TV at the same time.)
Have to sort out old tack (which is laying all over my bedroom) to sell at an event this weekend.
Have to dig out instructions on how to get ready for new window installation, which is tomorrow.
I won’t bore you with the rest. I am starting to bore myself with this list. ZZZZZZZ-Z-Z-Z
GRRRR… Well, I HAVE TO go now because I HAVE TO go do my errands (see list above). Somewhere in this mindless chaos of errands I hope to find beauty and peace.